Across decades and demographics, the answer to what sexual liberation looks like takes a lot of different forms.
I often read and hear that people feel that being sexually liberated looks like opening up your relationship, or 'being more kinky'.
But being sexually liberated isn’t limited to those who are open to certain sexual experiences.
True sexual freedom is about healing our wounds, removing shame and guilt, and learning about our bodies - understanding what we want, knowing how to ask for what we want and being able to express boundaries when we don’t want something.
In short, it’s about listening to your own needs, desires and capacity.
To get there, you need to first connect with yourself and what you value in terms of communication, commitment, trust and sexual experiences. Identify your priorities - and know that your priorities can and oftentimes will change, meaning you might need to revisit them from time to time.
Then, learn how to communicate those values. Some of these topics might feel uncomfortable. Talking these things out might bring up worries around rejection or uncertainty about how to begin such a conversation.
Yet it can feel powerful to own your needs and boundaries - and to work with another person who respects (and maybe even shares) those values.
It takes time, but knowing what you want and what your boundaries are, and being able to talk about them, can actually leave you feeling the benefits of true sexual freedom.
If you feel like you'd want to explore your needs, desires, boundaries, and how to communicate them in a loving and honest way, please message me here.
Irina emits a healing energy that just feels good to be with. Each time we've met, I've relaxed into her presence, openness, authenticity and ability to offer support. She has helped me gain the perspective I needed to be more compassionate and gentle with myself. If you're ready to do the hard work of personal growth, I'd highly recommend partnering with Irina.