Back in September 2010, burlesque star, model and businesswoman Dita Von Teese tweeted, "You can be a delicious, ripe peach and there will still be people in the world that hate peaches".
On days where thoughts of doubt or self-consciousness creep in, I sometimes remind myself of these words.
At their best, peaches give off a lusciously sweet smell; they have this softness, with just a bit of give. Even when I just think of their deep, sunset-like colors, it brings in this feeling of light and warmth.
From peach cobbler to grilled peaches to peach cake to fresh-off-the-tree peaches, there are dozens of different ways to enjoy these fruits.
But not everyone does.
And that’s okay.
Some people don’t like the soft fuzz that envelopes the peach’s skin. Others don’t like the texture of the flesh or the large, brown stone at its center. Peaches can bruise easily, too - they’re sensitive to excessive bumps and drops and squeezes.
And some people just don’t like peaches, without any easily identifiable reason.
There are dozens of other metaphors and quotes out there - from "you can't be everyone's cup of tea" to Hugo's "You have enemies? Why, it is the story of every man who has done a great deed or created a new idea." - but the point behind them is that not everyone will like you, and that’s okay.
Getting to know yourself - reveling in your strengths and acknowledging your imperfections - can be an empowering act. Sure, it can feel overwhelming or even uncomfortable at first, but somatic therapy is designed to help you sit with your feelings, to encourage you to check in with how something feels in your own body and to help guide you back to your intuition.
Whether you’re a peach, a banana or some other non-food-related descriptor, I wish you all come to know that, as fabulous as you are (and you are), not everyone will like you, and that’s okay.
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