In my sessions, I'm being asked quite often about how to deal with disagreements in relationships.
Although every relationship will have some kind of disagreement - even if it’s as simple as which way to put the toilet paper on - I've been hearing over and over again that partners feel pressured to “just get over it.”
Experience and age-old wisdom shows us that burying feelings never really works.
Repressed or suppressed feelings usually come back up and make themselves known anyway, whether that’s physically within our bodies or through things like resentment, which isn’t a solid base for a relationship.
Throughout my studies at the Somatica Institute, we explored all aspects of intimacy - including coming back in connection after a disagreement.
As a somatic therapist and intimacy coach, some of the principles I integrate into my own life and work include:
But doing this all on your own - individually or as a couple - can feel damn hard.
Especially when you’re triggered by a disagreement and literally can’t see past that, because our active amygdala shuts down the neural pathway to our prefrontal cortex - which means our access to multiple perspectives dissapears.
Having someone who isn’t a part of the relationship (and who, therefore, isn’t a part of the fight) to help detangle things and offer support to both partners can be helpful when it comes to improving communication and finding connection again.
If you find yourself struggling or feel like you want to deepen and strengthen connections, please reach out for help.
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Irina emits a healing energy that just feels good to be with. Each time we've met, I've relaxed into her presence, openness, authenticity and ability to offer support. She has helped me gain the perspective I needed to be more compassionate and gentle with myself. If you're ready to do the hard work of personal growth, I'd highly recommend partnering with Irina.
For me, it was a very magical experience to see how Irina could feel where my body's energy was 'stuck' and how she could guide me through unblocking it. In the end, I just felt the energy flowing through my body in a part where I don't think I ever felt it flowing like that before, or at least not for the last years that I can remember. I literally felt like my body was saying, "hello, there you are!".
I went into our first session feeling disconnected from my femininity, having had a long history of feeling stressed and anxious and not caring for myself enough. After putting Irina's advice into practice between sessions, I feel so much more connected to myself, aware of my cycle, and much more of a woman than ever.